I have come as you have asked
to draw you to my heart and lead you out.
For now is the time, my beautiful one.:
Weddings are usually joyous occasions, a time for families to come together and celebrate the happy couple’s new beginning. Often, parents have dreamt about what that day would be like. The engaged have imagined waking every morning to the love of their life. However, as the big day approaches and the preparations are about complete, almost everyone can feel the angst eking in. Some are effective in keeping this special time relaxed and peaceful. Others have mini meltdowns, and some will experience complete freak-outs! Why? The familiar is slipping away as time marches on.
Just like the lead up to the big wedding day, embracing change can be hard, even if you’re adventurous or were looking forward to the new change. There’s a comfort in what’s always been, rather or not things have actually been the way you’ve liked. The rhythms of life will change. I’m reminded of the traditional wedding reception, the feasting and dancing. The DJ or sound tech playing all the hits - different genres, bad dancing, and the poor people who couldn’t find the beat with a magnifying glass. But we still dance, never knowing what song is coming next or if we’ll even like it.
At Nigerian weddings, the bride and groom dance all night if they can, knowing the more they dance, the more money family and friends will bestow upon them. Finding their step in the beat, and letting the different rhythms glide into step, they dance…we dance even when we’re tired.
Just like couples dress and prepare for their wedding, The Lord is making sure our wedding garments don’t have any spots or stains, no wrinkles to speak of. During this time, we are being prepared as the bride of Christ. People are answering to the monogamous call and commitment to Christ. They realize honor for the Bride and Groom are in order. The sacred vows of matrimony bring together hope and strength, the holy and mundane as one. All around us people are hearing the rhythms of God.
Just as we cheer when the new couple first kiss and embrace, let us give our unabashed love to the Bridegroom, Jesus Christ. May our spoken and unspoken expectation be rooted in how good he is and what he declares over us. May we grow in trust as he is the source we rely on. For many, it is not easy facing the uncertainty of tomorrow. It is just as difficult confronting the pains and pressure of today.
To be honest, the last 6 months have been overwhelming;
meaning I have been saying “I am fine” for 5 months, and within the last month
I just caught up with my emotions and am now able to put them into words. This
process of delayed recognition is part defense mechanism and part growth
process. Whichever, the delayed time allowed
me to keep the wave of emotions at a distance until being able to let them in without
being controlled or drowned by their flow. During this time I had to learn the new rhythms of God. I have had to pause, find the beat, and jump in.
There is power in pausing -- and even in emotional time-delays.
Embracing these times is hard. But in the pause, in the preparation, we can hear
the song change, the beat shifts and gain new purpose and perspective. We are
beginning new chapters with different genres and methods, learning to move in what we’ve never seen or experienced, and embracing new people along the way.
The Bridegroom is taking the lead; follow these new rhythms with grace, mercy
and justice.